We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I’d know better.
I’d really like for them to know about hand-me-down clothes and home-made ice cream and leftover meatloaf. I really would.
My cherished grandson, I hope you learn humility① by surviving failure and that you learn to be honest even when no one is looking.
I hope you learn to make your bed and mow the lawn and wash the car—and I hope nobody gives you a brand-new car when you are sixteen.
It will be good if at least one time you can see a baby calf born, and you have a good friend to be with you if you ever have to put your old dog to sleep.
I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.
I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother. And it is all right to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl② under the covers with you because he’s scared, I hope you’ll let him.
And when you want to see a Disney movie and your kid brother wants to tag along, I hope you take him.
I hope you have to walk up hill with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.
If you want a slingshot③, I hope your father teaches you how to make one instead of buying one. I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books, and when you learn to use computers, you also learn how to add and subtract in your head.
I hope you get razzed④ by friends when you have your first crush on a girl, and that when you talk back to your mother you learn what ivory soap tastes like.
May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on the stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.
I hope you get sick when someone blows smoke in your face. I don’t care if you try beer once, but I hope you won’t like it. And if a friend offers you a joint⑤ or any drugs, I hope you are smart enough to realize that person is not your friend.
I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your grandpa or go fishing with your uncle.
I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through a neighbor’s window, and that she hugs you and kisses you when you give her a plaster⑥ of pared mold of your hand.
These things I wish for you: tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness.
① humilityn. 谦卑,谦逊
② crawlv. 爬,爬行
③ slingshotn. 【美】弹弓
④ razzv. 嘲笑,戏弄,欺负
⑤ jointn. 【俚】大麻烟
⑥ plastern. 熟石膏,烧石膏
幸福快乐就好
我们竭尽全力想让我们的儿女们过得更好,而结果却是适得其反。对我的孙辈们,我就明智得多了。
我真的希望他们能够了解什么是兄长传下来的旧衣服,家制的冰淇淋,以及吃剩的肉糕。我真的希望。
我的宝贝孙子,我希望你在经受失败的考验之后能学会谦卑,也希望你能学会诚实,即使在没有人注视你的时候。
我希望你能学会自己叠被子,自己刈草坪,自己洗车——我还希望在你满16岁时没有人送给你一辆崭新的轿车。
假如你至少有一次机会看见小牛犊出生,假如你不得不为你的老狗送终,那时有一位好朋友在场为你作伴,那样该有多好啊!
我希望你能为自己的所信仰与人斗得眼青脸肿。
我希望你能和你弟弟共一间卧室,即使你在卧室中间划一条分界线也没关系。可是,当弟弟因为害怕而要爬进你的被窝时,我希望你会接纳他。
当你要出去看迪斯尼电影,你的小弟弟想做你的小尾巴时,我希望你能带上他。
我希望你能和朋友们一起爬山,而在你所生活的城市里做这项运动不会有什么危险。
如果你想要一把弹弓,我希望你父亲能教你怎样自己做一把,而不是为你买一把现成的。我还希望你能学会挖泥巴和读书;而当你学会使用电脑时,你也应该学会加减法的心算。
当你第一次恋上一个女孩时,我希望你会受到朋友们的嘲弄;而当你跟你母亲顶嘴时,希望她叫你尝一尝象牙肥皂的滋味。
但愿你能在爬山时弄破膝盖上的皮,或者在炉子上烧伤手,或者让舌头粘在结冰的旗杆上。
我希望吸烟者对着你的脸上喷吐烟雾时,你会感到恶心。如果你尝试喝一次啤酒,我不会在意;但是我希望你不会喜欢上它。如果有一位朋友请你吸一口含大麻的香烟,或者任何毒品,我希望你明智地意识到他不是你的朋友。
我当然希望你能抽时间来陪你爷爷在门廊上坐一坐,或者陪你叔叔钓钓鱼。
如果你把捧球扔进了邻居的窗户,我希望你母亲惩罚你。如果你能剪掉指甲,用石膏做一只自己的手的模型送给你妈,我希望她会给你拥抱和亲吻。
我希望你能经历:艰难的岁月,挫折和失望;希望你努力工作,幸福快乐。