Getting to Know others
Guidance for Reciting
Painting a tiger's skin is easy，but not so the bones. A man's face one can know，but not his heart.
Getting to know someone is a never-ending task，largely because people are constantly changing and the methods we use to obtain information are often imprecise. You may have known someone for ten years and still know very little about him. If we accept the idea that we won't very fully know another person，it enables us to deal more easily with those things that get in the way of accurate knowledge such as secrets and deceptions. It will also keep us from being too surprised or shocked by seemingly inconsistent behavior. Ironically，those things that keep us from knowing another person too well （e.g. secrets and deceptions）may be just as important to the development of a satisfying relationship as those things that enable us to obtain accurate knowledge about a person （e.g. disclosures and truthful statements）.
Notes
1.accurate [5Akjurit] a. 准确的，精确的
2.deception [di5sepFEn] n. 骗局，诡计，欺骗，欺诈
了解别人
诵读导言
画虎画皮难画骨，知人知面不知心。
逐渐了解某人是一件永无止境的工作，主要的原因是人们不断地在改变，而我们获得信息的手段也往往不精确。你也许认识某人已十年，但对他却所知甚少。我们很难完全了解一个人。如果接受这一点，我们就能更容易地处理那些妨碍我们确切了解他人的事情（诸如秘密和欺骗）。我们也不会在发现那种看起来前后不一致的行为时太过于惊讶。具有讽刺意义的是：有些因素妨碍我们更好地了解对方（比如秘密和欺骗），有些因素使我们能更准确地了解对方（比如自我表露和坦诚相见），然而对发展令人满意的人际关系来讲两种因素都是很重要的。
口语点津
正如本书开头所说，学英语的终极目的正是为了交流，这种交流必须是双向，甚至多向的；既要了解别人，了解社会，更要让社会和他人知道你的存在，了解你的诉求！