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第13章 等待是幸福的反方向Happiness

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很多人认为,拥有财富与声望之时,便是幸福到来之际。我得告诉你,事实并非如此。这个世界,富有却痛苦得如同生活在地狱的人比比皆是。关于电影明星自杀或吸毒致死的报道,我们不是没有见过。毫无疑问,金钱并非解决全部问题的唯一办法。

不义之财无法带来幸福。彩票中奖不能带来幸福。赌博所得不可能带来幸福。在我看来,幸福的秘诀在于工作卓有成就,在于对他人的幸福有所贡献,在于诚实致富。凭运气或靠欺骗得来的钱财是不义之财。利用他人或伤害他人得来的钱财,你不会乐于接受,你会觉得自己自私而卑鄙。

建立在诚实正直和卓有成效的工作、贡献及自尊的基础上的幸福才会长久。幸福不是终点,而是一个过程。这个过程需要连续不断的诚实正直和卓有成效的工作。它让你真正有益于他人,让你意识到自身的价值。正如韦恩博士所说:“没有通向幸福的路,幸福本身就是路。”“有朝一日,我实现了自己的目标,有车有房,拥有自己的事业,那么我就会幸福。”——这种说法毫无意义。生活不会是这样的。若是等到某些东西的出现,依赖外部环境的改变,你才感到幸福,那你永远若有所失,总会错过某些东西。

Many people think that when they become rich and successful,happiness will naturally follow.Let me tell you that nothing is further from the truth.The world is full of very rich people who are as miserable as if they were living in hell.We have read stories about movie stars who committed suicide or died from drugs.Quite clearly,money is not the only answer to all problems.

Wealth obtained through dishonest means does not bring happiness.Lottery winnings do not bring happiness.Gamble winnings do not bring happiness.To my mind,the secret to happiness lies in your successful work,in your contribution towards others’happiness and in your wealth you have earned through your own honest effort.If you obtain wealth through luck or dishonest means,you will know that it is ill earned money.If you get your money by taking advantage of others or by hurting others,you will not be happy with it.You will think you are a base person.

Long-term happiness is based on honesty,productive work,contribution,and self-esteem.Happiness is not an end;it is a process.It is a continuous process of honest,productive work which makes a real contribution to others and makes you feel you are a useful,worthy person.As Dr.Wayne wrote,“There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way.”There is no use saying“Some day when I achieve these goals,when I get a car,build a house and own my own business,then I will be really happy.”Life just does not work that way.If you wait for certain things to happen and depend on external circumstances of life to make you happy,you will always feel unfulfilled.There will always be something missing.