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第18章 最美的快乐生活旋律 (6)

我再次去那个加油站时,又感觉不错了,也明白了究竟是怎么一回事。这个地方最近涂了一种明亮、胆汁质的黄色油漆,灯光反射在墙壁上,让里面的人看起来像是得了肝炎。我想,不知道有多少人也有过类似的经历呢!我的心情因为与一个完全陌生的人短暂交谈,整整改变了一天。他告诉我,我看起来像生病了,而后不久,我真的感觉不舒服。这个消极的观点,深刻地影响了我的感受和行为。

唯一比消极更具力量的是一个积极的肯定,一句乐观和希望的言辞。最让我欣慰的是,我是在一个有着乐观主义光荣传统的国度里成长的。当整体文化积极向上时,再难以置信的事也能完成。当世界看起来充满希望时,人们就会在这个积极的场所努力向上,并获得成功。

乐观并不需要变得幼稚,我们可以在成为乐观者的同时,仍意识到有问题存在,有些甚至难以解决。但是,乐观使解决问题的态度有所不同!乐观会使我们把注意力从消极转到积极的、建设性的思考上。如果你是一个乐观者,会更关心问题的解决,而不是毫无价值地怨天尤人。事实上,如果没有乐观主义精神,一些现存的巨大问题,如贫穷,就毫无希望解决。它需要一个梦想家—— 一个拥有绝对乐观、矢志不渝、坚定信念的人——来解决这个巨大的问题。乐观,或是悲观,在于你的选择。

每个人都可以选择面对生活的态度,选择快乐或悲伤、积极或消极。快乐是一天,悲伤也是一天;积极是一天,消极也是一天。既然这样,我们为什么不让自己过得更加幸福呢?人要学会善待自己、善待生活,因此应让生活多一些快乐和阳光,选择积极的人生。

principle ['prinspl] n. 原理;原则;主义;道义;本质;本义;

根源;源泉

These machines both work on the same principle.

这两台机器的工作原理是相同的。

optimism ['ptimizm] n. 乐观;乐观主义

I admire your optimism.

我很钦佩你的乐观。

perspective [p'spektiv] n. 透视图;远景;观点

These fortunes in perspective look such a long way off.

这些远景里的财富是可望而不可即的。

conversely ['knv:sli] adv. 相反地

Conversely, high humidity is related to tropical rain forest conditions.

反之,高的湿度与热带雨林条件相连。

乐观和成功之间似乎有一种天然的因果关系。

我喜欢展望未来。

当一切尘埃落定,我发现生命中的美好远多于丑恶。

If you expect something to turn out badly, it probably will.

turn out:结果是;驱逐;制造;生产

But the same principle also works in reverse.

in reverse:相反;向相反方向;倒(退);逆(行、转等)

22让你快乐的法则

Five Simple Rules

佚名 / Anonymous

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred;

2. Free your mind from worries;

3. Live simply

4. Give more;

5. Expect less.

No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

Disappointments are like road humps, they slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards.

Don't stay on the humps too long. Move on!

When you feel down because you didn't get what you wanted, just sit tight and be happy because God is thinking of something better to give you.

When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means. There's a purpose to life's events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.

You can't make someone love you, all you can do is being someone who can be loved, and the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.

The measure of love is when you love without measure.

In life there are very rare chances that you'll meet the person you love and loves you in return. So once you have it don't ever let go, the chance might never come your way again.

It's better to lose your pride to the one you love than to lose the one you love because of pride.

We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.

When you truly care for someone, you don't look for faults, you don't look for answers, and you don't look for mistakes. Instead, you forgive the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook the excuses.

Never abandon an old friend. You will never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

记住如下五条简单的快乐法则:

1.让心灵从憎恨中解脱;

2.让情绪从焦虑中解脱;

3.简单地生活;

4.更多地付出;

5.更少地期待。

没有人能回到过去,重新开始,但谁都可以从现在开始,开创一个崭新的未来。

上帝并未承诺我们没有痛苦的日子,没有悲伤的欢笑,没有雨天的阳光,但是他给予了我们生活的力量,安慰着我们痛苦的心灵,也照亮了我们前行的方向。

失望就像人生道路上的山丘,它们使你前行的脚步迟缓,但是,一旦越过它们,你便踏上了坦途。

不要在山丘上停留太久。继续前进!

当你为得不到渴求的东西而沮丧时,请坚持你的渴求,并快乐地等待,因为上帝正在考虑让更好的事降临到你头上。

不论发生什么事,不管是好是坏,思考它的意义吧。生活的目的是教会你如何开心更多、伤心更少。

你不能强求别人爱上你,你只能力求做一个值得别人爱的人,剩下就看别人如何认可你的价值了。

权衡爱的标准就是毫无条件地去爱。

生活中,遇到你爱的并且爱你的人并不容易,因而,一旦遇到了,请一定要珍惜,这样的机会不可能有第二次。

为你所爱的人放弃自己的骄傲,比为了骄傲而失去你所爱的人要好得多。

我们花太多的时间去寻找真爱,去挑剔爱人的缺点。事实上,我们应该让自己给出更完美的爱。

当你真正在乎一个人时,你就不会对他吹毛求疵,不会找原因,也不会挑他的过错。相反,你会原谅他的过错,接受他的缺点,忽略他的借口。

不要与老朋友断绝往来,没有人能够替代他。要知道,友谊如酒,越久越醇。

brand [br鎛d] n. 商标;牌子;烙印

Which brand do you like?

你喜欢哪种品牌?

disappointment [dis'pintmnt] n. 失望

She concealed her disappointment from her mother.

她对母亲隐瞒了自己的失望。

hump [hmp] n. 圆形隆起物;驼背;驼峰;坡

We are over the hump now.

我们现在已经渡过了难关。

abandon ['b鎛dn] v. 放弃;遗弃;沉溺

I can not abandon my major.

我不能放弃我的专业。

没有人能回到过去,重新开始,但谁都可以从现在开始,开创一个崭新的未来。

你不能强求别人爱上你,你只能力求做一个值得别人爱的人,剩下就看别人如何认可你的价值了。

权衡爱的标准就是毫无条件地去爱。

Don't stay on the humps too long. Move on!

move on:往前走;前进;出发;离开

We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.

look for:寻找;寻求;惹来;招来;指望;期待

23乐观处世的学问

Think Positively

佚名 / Anonymous

If you want to get somewhere, you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then just never, never, never give up.

The secret of life isn' t what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.

Help other people to cope with their problems and your own will be easier to cope with.

Never use the word "impossible" seriously again. Toss it into the verbal wastebasket.

Self-confidence is the first secret of success. So believe yourself!

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven' t half the strength you think they have.

Joy increases as you give it and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate more joy than your ever believed possible.

How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself, so always think positively.

Plunge head first into life; give it all you' ve got. And life will give all it has to you.

若你想去某处,必须知道自己想去哪里以及怎么去。然后,就永远、永远不要放弃。

生活的奥秘不在于你身上发生了什么,而在于你怎样对待发生在你身上的事。

帮助他人应对他们的问题,那么,你自身的问题也就容易解决了。

永远不要认真地说“不可能”这句话,把它丢入言语的垃圾箱吧。

自信是成功的第一要诀。因此,要相信自己!