As a renowned color consultant, the late Suzanne Caygill designed the homes and wardrobes of celebrities. To deal with all the demands of her schedule, she followed a rule learned from her seam-stress grandmother: If she had a job to do, she did it immediately. Too many people waste time “commencing to proceed to get started,” Caygill would say.
If you just dive in, though, you’ll be surprised at how fast you get things done. Remember, the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
作为一名著名的色彩顾问,苏珊娜·凯吉尔生前曾为许多知名人士设计房间和个人服装。为了应付她时间表上的各种事情,她依照一条从她祖母那里学来的原则:如果有什么工作要做,她立即就做。凯吉尔说,很多人把时间浪费在“准备开始”上。
尽管你刚刚开始这么做事,你也会对自己这么快就做完了事情感到意外。记住,种树的最佳时间是20年前,仅次于它的最好时间就是现在。
Self-Awareness自我意识
The man who is aware of himself is henceforth independent; and he is never bored, and life is only too short, and he is steeped through and through with profound yet temperate happiness. He alone lives, while other people, slaves of ceremony, let life slip past time in a kind of dream. Once conform, once do what other people do finer than they do it, and a lethargy steals over all the finer nerves and faculties of the soul, He becomes all outer show and inward emptiness; dull, callous, and indifferent.
凡是意识到自我的人从今往后才是独立的;他永远不知疲倦,他明白生命苦短,所以完全沉浸于深深的而又适度的幸福之中。他独立生活,而别人是繁文缛节的奴隶,在醉生梦死之中听从生命悄然流逝。一旦循规蹈矩,一旦人为亦为,呆滞就笼罩着灵魂中一切灵敏的神经和官能。灵魂变得徒有其表,其中空空;迟钝,木然、冷漠。
Change The Mood and Do Better on Your Own改变心情 对自己好一点
Whenever you feel very depressed and really cannot bear it anymore, you have to treat yourself good. Go into the best coffee shop that you’ve always liked but always feared to spend money, buy the suit that you’ve always wanted but you thought was too expensive. Treat yourself nicely at that time because you need it. Just like someone else in time of need you have to comfort him, give him the best, give him the best support and love, and spoil him. You have to spoil yourself, give yourself the best support when you need it most—like when you’re depressed, when you feel you really cannot live anymore, cannot go on anymore. At that time you must treat yourself nicely. If you can afford anything, afford it. You can earn money later again, you can earn your time again, but you have to put yourself together first. You have to stand up first.
I don’t say you go out and do shopping every day and spend all the money on the big coffee shop, on the best clothes. But, when you are the most depressed and you can’t go on anymore with life, then you cannot afford to economize anymore. You have to spoil yourself, love yourself the most, then you pick up very fast. Yeah, go out and talk to people, treat yourself like a queen, spend money, whatever, to make yourself feel good. At that time only, not every day, if you can afford it. And if you cannot spend a lot of money, then go to somewhere that is not a lot of money but you can also find something that you like. It’s not always necessary to go to expensive places to find the things you like. Just some new clothes, some new hairstyle, new perm, everything would make you feel different right away. New makeup. These are not expensive.
Same with the men. But sometimes because we get into the habit, like always wearing dark clothes, always wearing a turtleneck, then depressed, just stay there, don’t move, don’t change. Try something new to take your mind off the depression, that’s already something. If normally you always wear black, brown and blue then try white, cream, lighter colors, or pink. Just boost yourself up.
每当你觉得沮丧到真的再也无法忍受,此时你必须善待自己,到一家你最喜欢而平时舍不得消费的咖啡馆去消磨一下时光,去买套你一直想拥有却嫌太贵的衣服。在那个时刻,请善待自己,因为你有此需要。就像当别人有需要时,你必须安慰他,给他最好的、给他最大支持和爱心、宠他一下。当你最需要的时候、在你失意、在你感到再也活不下去、再也无法继续下去之时,你也必须宠自己,给自己最佳的支持。在那个时刻,你必须善待自己,在能力所及之范围内,去买任何你想要的东西,因为稍后你可以再把钱赚回来;你可以把时间再补回来,但首先你必须使自己恢复过来,先站稳自己的脚步。
我不是要你每天出去逛街,把所有的钱都花在昂贵的咖啡馆和高级服饰上,而是当你处于最低潮,对人生感到无力为继之时,你就不能再对自己吝啬,你必须宠自己,尽可能疼惜自己,然后才能很快地振作起来。出去找人谈一谈,对待自己如同皇后般,去花一点钱、做任何让你觉得好受一点的事。只有在那个时刻,而非每天都如此,而且是在你能力所及之处。如果你没有余裕可供花费,那就去个所费不多,但仍可找到你喜欢的东西的地方。并非一定要在高消费的地方才会有你喜欢的东西。只要一些新衣服,烫个新发型、弄个新妆扮,任何能让你改变心情的事,就立刻去做,这些都不贵。
男士们也是一样。不过有时候我们囿于风俗习惯,例如常穿深色的衣服、老是穿套头毛衣,因此觉得很沮丧,像缩头乌龟一样老是待在那里,一动也不动,一成不变。试着去做些新的改变来跳出气馁的心情,这就已经不错了。若平时你总是穿着黑色、咖啡色和蓝色的衣服,那不妨试试白色、米黄色、试一些较亮的颜色,或是粉红色,只要是能振作精神的。
Top Parenting Info: Be Consistent最重要的教养之道:坚定
A consistent approach is pivotal to successfully teaching a son or daughter right from wrong when punishing them. It prevents small misdeeds and poor conduct from turning into greater misdeeds. You have to remain unwavering and mean it when you ask them, “Switch off your computer now.” or “no dessert after dinner because you didn’t touch your dinner.”
A consistent approach shows your son or daughter there are express effects for misdeeds and improper or unsatisfactory deeds or manners.