There is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations, who has been brave enough to let go off his unrealistic dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so.
The Wholeness of Life
Once a circle missed a wedgewedge n.楔 . The circle wanted to be whole, so it went around looking for its missing piece. But because it was incomplete and therefore could rollroll vt.辗, 轧 only very slowly, it admired the flowers along the way.It chatted with worms. It enjoyed the sunshine.
人生的完整在于懂得如何面对缺陷,如何勇敢地摒弃不真实的幻想而又不以此为遗憾。
完整人生
从前有一个圆圈,缺少了一块楔子。它想保持完整,便四处寻找那块丢失的楔子。由于不完整,它只能慢慢滚动前进。它一路上羡慕开放的花儿,与蚯蚓谈天论地,还陶醉在温暖阳光之中。
It found lots of different pieces, but none of them fit. So it left them all by the side of the road and kept on searching.
Then one day the circle found a piece that fit perfectlyperfectly adv.很, 完全, 完美地 . It was so happy. Now it could be whole, with nothing missing. It incorporatedincorporate vt.合并, 使组成公司, 具体表现 the missing piece into itself and began to roll. Now that it was a perfect circle, it could roll very fast, too fast to notice flowers or talk to the worms.
When it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly, it stopped, left its found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away.
The lesson of the story, I suggested, was that in some strange sense we are more whole when we are missing something.
圆圈找到了很多形状各异的楔子,但没有一块适合它。所以它将这些全部丢弃在路旁,继续寻找。
终于有一天,它找到了一块完美的楔子。圆圈非常高兴,现在它可以算是完美无缺的了。它装好楔子,并开始滚动起来。由于它已成为了一个完整的圆圈,所以滚动得很快,以至于不能再观赏花儿,也无暇与蚯蚓聊天了。
当圆圈觉察到因快奔急弛使它的世界发生了变化时,它不由地停了下来,将找到的楔子丢弃在路边,又重新开始了慢慢地滚动。
这个故事告诉我们一个道理,从某种奇妙的意义上来说,当我们失去了一些东西时,人生反而会变得更加完整。
The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man. He will never know what it feels like to yearn, to hope, to nourishnourish vt.滋养, 使健壮, 怀有(希望,仇恨等) his soul with the dream of something better.
He will never know the experience of having someone who loves him give him something he has always wanted or never had.
There is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitationslimitation n.限制, 局限性 , who has been brave enough to let go off his unrealisticunrealistic adj.不切实际的, 不实在的 dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so.
There is a wholeness about the man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go throughgo through v.经历, 经受, 仔细检查, 用完, 被通过, 参加, 搜查, 履行 a tragedy and survive,she can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.
拥有一切的人在某种意义上其实是个穷人。因为他永远也无法体会什么是渴望、期待以及如何运用美好梦想来滋润自己的灵魂。
他也永远不会有这样的体验:一个爱他的人送给他某种日思夜想或从未拥有过的东西时所代表的含义。
人生的完整在于懂得如何面对缺陷,如何勇敢地摒弃不真实的幻想而又不以此为遗憾。
人生的完整还在于学会勇于直面人生中的悲剧而继续生活下去,能够在失去亲人之后依然表现出完整的人生风范。
Life is not a trap set for us by God so that he can condemncondemn vt.判刑, 处刑, 声讨, 谴责 us for failing. Life is not a spelling bee, where no matter how many words youve gotten right, youre disqualifieddisqualify vt.使丧失资格 if you make one mistake. Life is more like a baseball season,where even the best team loses onethird of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliancebrilliance n.光辉, 显赫, 鲜明 . Our goal is to win more games than we lose.
When we accept that imperfectionimperfection n.不完整性, 非理想性 is part of being human, and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it, we will have achieved a wholeness that others can only aspireaspire vi.热望, 立志 to.
That, I believe, is what God asks of us—not “ Be perfect” , not “ Dont even make a mistake”, but “ Be whole.”
人生不是上帝为惩罚我们的缺陷而布下的陷阱。人生也不会是一场拼字游戏的比赛,不管你能拼写出多少个单词,假如出现了一个纰漏,你便功败垂成。人生更类似于一个棒球赛季,即便是最好的球队也会输掉1/3的比赛,而最差的球队也会有扬眉吐气的时光。我们的目标就是比赛中多赢少输。
当我们认可了受不完整性是人类本性的一部分,当我们不断进行滚动并能赞赏其价值时,我们便会获得其他人只能热望的完整人生。
我想这就是上帝对我们的要求:不渴求“完美”,也不苛求“永远不犯错误”,而是求得人生的“完整”。
If we are brave enough to love, strong enough to forgive, generous enough to rejoicerejoice v.(使)欣喜, (使)高兴, 喜悦 in anothers happiness, and wise enough to know there is enough love to go around for us all, then we can achieve a fulfillmentfulfillment n.履行, 实行 that no other living creature will ever know.
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倘若我们能鼓足勇气去爱,坚强地去宽恕,大度地去为别人的幸福而鼓掌,明智地认为身边充满着爱,那么我们就能取得其他人所不能取得的成就。
人生是在追求完美中趋于完整的,正是源于人生的不完整,我们才不断追寻其价值何在,才会更加珍惜拥有的东西,才会心存渴望的憧憬。我们没有必要也不可能将任何东西都拥有,我们拥有一些东西,也会必然失去一些东西。在得到和失去之间,就是我们的人生成长足迹,在岁月长河中,我们会渐渐明白不完整也是一种完整。因为在人生的旅途中,我们大胆地爱过,大度地宽容过,乐观地奋斗过,我们的人生就不会留下所谓的遗憾,所以我们获得了完整。