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第34章 以爱之名 (7)

Sometimes people come into your life and you come to realize that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, co-worker, long-lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know in an instant that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, brilliant achievements, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’ t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

You can make of your life anything your wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. Most importantly, if you love someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.

人们不时走进你的生活,有时你会觉察出。他们是出于某种特定目的:给你一个教训,帮你认清自己或你理想中的自己。你永远不知道这些人是谁(可能是你的室友、邻居、同事、久违的朋友、爱人,甚至完全是一个陌生人)。一旦你开始关注他们,很快便会发现,他们影响了你的生活,而且往往很深远的。

有时,发生在你身上的事情看似可怕、痛苦,或不公平,但细思之后,你会发现,如果没有克服这些障碍,就永远不可能认识到自己的潜力、能力、毅力,或者真实的内心世界。世事皆非出于偶然。疾病、伤痛、爱情,辉煌的成就和彻底的失败,这一切都是检验你灵魂的限度。不论它们以何种方式出现,没有这些细微的考验,生活会如一条平坦笔直的大道,无止境地延伸下去,也许安逸舒适,却枯燥乏味,毫无意义。

你遇到的人会影响你的生活,你所经历的成功和失败,都有助于塑造和成就你。甚至是那些不幸的遭遇也能让你有所领悟,这事实上也可能是最深刻、最重要的。如果有人伤害了你,出卖了你,或者伤透了你的心,原谅他们吧,因为他们教会了你:敞开心扉时,保持警惕心态和真诚待人同样重要;如果有人爱你,那么无条件地去爱他们吧,不只是因为他们爱你,更因为在某种意义上,他们教会你去爱,教会你如何敞开心扉,打开心窗去看世间万物;让每天都意义非凡吧,珍惜每一刻,并充分感受它带来的一切。因为每一时刻不会重复拥有;与从未交谈过的人聊聊,并认真聆听吧;让自己坠入爱河,并跳出情网之束缚;昂首向前,放宽视野吧。你完全有权利这么做,告诉自己你是一个很杰出的人,并相信自己。因为如果连你都不相信自己,别人将更难相信你。

你可以随心所欲地享受生活,创造属于你自己的生活方式,并无怨无悔。最为重要的是,如果你爱上了谁,就告诉他或她,因为你不知道明天会发生什么。

心灵小语

如果你爱上了谁,就告诉他或她。

记忆填空

1. You never____who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, co-worker, long-lost friend, lover, or____a complete stranger), but____you lock eyes with them, you know in an instant that they will affect your life in some profound____ .

2. Make every day__ . Appreciate every____and take from those moments everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it__ . Talk to people that you have never____to before, and actually listen.

佳句翻译

1. 保持警惕心态和真诚待人同样重要。

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2. 如果有人爱你,那么无条件地去爱他们吧。

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3. 你可以随心所欲地享受生活,创造属于你自己的生活方式,并无怨无悔。

译__________________________

短语应用

1. ...or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

figure out:算出;想出;理解;断定;解决

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2. Hold your head up because you have every right to.

hold up:举起;抢劫;支撑;阻挡

造________________________

婚姻、爱和自由可以并存吗

Marriage, Love and Freedom

佚名 / Anonymous

You are asking, “Is it possible to be married and to be free?”

If you take marriage non-seriously, then you can be free. If you take it seriously, then freedom is impossible. Take marriage just as a game—it is a game. Have a little sense of humor, that it is a role you are playing on the stage of life; but it is not something that belongs to existence or has any reality—it is a fiction.

But people are so stupid that they even start taking fiction for reality. I have seen people reading fiction with tears in their eyes, because in the fiction things are going so tragically. It is a very good device in the movies that they put the lights off, so everybody can enjoy the movie, laugh, cry, be sad, be happy. If there was light it would be a little difficult—what will others think? And they know perfectly well that the screen is empty—there is nobody; it is just a projected picture. But they forget it completely.

And the same has happened with our lives. Many things which are simply to be taken humorously, we take so seriously—and from that seriousness begins our problem.

In the first place, why should you get married? You love someone, live with someone—it is part of your basic rights. You can live with someone, you can love someone.